The Lower Chakras Blog
The Lower Chakras Blog
Womanhood, Yoni Steaming, Sacred Sex, Menstrual Cycle Awareness
Womanhood, Yoni Steaming, Sacred Sex, Menstrual Cycle Awareness
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Menarche
Menarche is the first menstrual cycle, or first menstrual bleeding, in females. From both social and medical perspectives, it is often considered the central event of female puberty, as it signals the possibility of fertility. Girls experience menarche (first period) at different ages.
In many indigenous cultures the first bleed a young girl experiences is often celebrated in ritual. It is celebrated as her 'Rite of passage' on her journey to womanhood.
I remember my first bleed. I was aged approx 11/12. I remember that there was 'some' preparation before hand which was most likely a conversation on puberty, pregnancy and boys. My mother would always drop her one liner which was 'we need to talk about the birds and the bees'.
I remember that when my first bleed arrived I was not at all scared. Knowing me I was
most likely excited. My mother was always quite open with her conversations on womanhood and I would often over hear her conversations between her and her sisters. I learned a lot from being nosey and ear wigging!
I remember telling my mother that my period had arrived and I also remember her being VERY excited. Before sorting out my sanitary towel, my mother was telling our neighbours and was also on the phone to my aunts. To my mother, my first period meant two things... 1, I was evolving into womanhood and 2, she would have grand children. To my mother her daughter having her first period came with a lot of pride. I also feel that it came with a sense of wholeness and completion. We never spoke about it much after the event but it definitely stands out to me as being a happy moment.
I have no idea where my mothers views came from in regards to her excitement of Menarche, and as she is no longer with me in the physical I will have to see what she shares with me in the spiritual. That being said, I can imagine that my mothers views were passed on to her from her own mother and grandmother which is how most traditions and rituals were shared.
Now as much as my experience of Menarche was a positive one, unfortunately for many young girls all over the world the arrival of their first period will come with fear and confusion, most of which is due to there being no preparation for this event. This month I will be running my first menstrual cycle workshop of 2019 aimed at young women aged 9+ and I am so excited. I'm excited because I want young women and their parents to feel comfortable with what is the most natural part of womanhood. I'm a firm believer of saying 'teach them from young'.
Teach them from young how beautiful and amazing the female body is.
Teach them from young how to work with the energy of each phase of their cycle.
Teach them from young what is normal and abnormal bleeding, discomfort and anything else associated with their periods.
Teach them from young how to connect with their wonderful wombs.
We need to get back to a state of remembering what it meant to be initiated gently into womanhood with lots of love, wisdom and guidance.
Menarche is a key milestone and celebration that I believe every young woman should have the joy in experiencing without fear. I am so ready to share this wisdom.
I am Atlantic Rain.
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Yoni Steaming & The Second Brain
It feels good to be back. After taking a few weeks out to celebrate the Spring Equinox, family birthdays and some 'Me' time, it feels good to be back supporting women on their Yoni Steam Queen journeys.
It's amazing what our senses tune into when we enter a new space. I'm a believer of energy, I also think that our ancestors give us signs everyday to let us no that they are still with us. Today for one of my beautiful Yoni Steam Queens it was all about the sense of smell.
I love incense and burn it often in my space. Incense is perfect for cleansing, purifying and neutralising the energy of a space. Different fragrances can invoke so much memory in us. Smells can remind us of people, which is exactly what happened today. Emotional but so beautiful to see.
Our womb space holds its own memory which is separate to the memory that is held in our brain. All that is good, all that is not so good and all that is indifferent is all stored in this space. If we don't do the work to dissolve the negative energy that is holding us back we can remain stuck in a low vibrating state. To be in low vibration effects our emotional health and well being immensely which is detrimental to our souls journey as we risk not fulfilling our full potential. Life is such a gift and i'm so passionate about the offer of Yoni Steaming to women who are open to doing the work. Why? Because we deserve all the good that this life has to offer.
Shout out to today's Queens. Beautiful energy both inside and out.
I am Atlantic Rain.
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Sexual Healing
Alone time by myself, in thought while connecting into that inner sacred sexual feminine energy has been a must for me over the past few weeks. Energetically I have not felt fully present which I have found annoying as I have been keen to write. However, the message that I received from the divine was to slow down and reconnect with myself. This year my focus has been on healing in every area of my life including healing my sexual identity. As with any type of healing work, this healing has taken me on a journey of self discovery and self acceptance. I have been able to unpick 'Myself'.
Many of our negative sexual experiences are trauma based. Trauma linked to different parts of our lifes journey. This does not neccessarily mean sexual trauma or abuse, this can be emotional and/or attachment based.
I remember when I first became intimate with my now husband, I would often cry and not actually no why. Especially as he was so gentle with me. What I now understand is that sexual energy has the ability to unearth trapped emotions. Emotions that we may not even be conscious of. Many of the emotions that emerge from our sexual encounters can actually be emotions that have been lying there dormant inside of us for a long time without us even knowing.
As for my journey, now I'm feeling the shift, and while still working through a lot of my 'stuff' I am starting to feel a sense of ease.
I'm a firm believer in the saying... 'As I heal myself, I heal others' and that is exactly what I'm finding. Women who come to visit me want to talk about sex, sexual experiences, sexual trauma, sexual empowerment and their sexual identity. I believe that it is our way of understanding who and why we are the way we are. It's our way to heal past hurt and past trauma.
Q, So why is this important? My thought is this...Sex, fucking, love making, shagging, intimacy, whatever you chose to call it is deeper then penetration. Its about an energy exchange. Good sex with the right partner can be healing on so many levels. The key is to choose your sexual partners well, even if its casual sex. Sex as a healing modality can be so powerful. It's all about tuning in. Giving, receiving, surrendering and allowing any negative energy to move through you to the point of dissolve.
I am Atlantic Rain.
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Sacred Water
After a conversation with one of my nearest & dearest I felt called to advise her to go to wherever she could find sacred water. Thankfully she received this message well. Water is probably my favourite element, hence the name Atlantic Rain.
Water symbolises so many different things to me. I could write forever about what I feel that water represents. Here are a few of my favourites; birth, fertility, purity, wisdom, power, transition, motion, renewal, blessing, Intuition, reflection, subconscious, transformation, psychic perception, dreams, healing and cleansing.
Water also symbolises Life which is the greatest gift of all.
Thinking about nature and water being our first home where we were housed in our mothers wombs, I cannot help but feel that whenever we need divine guidance we should seek to gain this by being close to water.
I believe that we have the ability to answer our own prayers.
I also believe that the power of our own words creates our reality.
If you ever sense a feeling of being stuck think about the lessons that are being taught to us through water. Water teaches us to be non resistant and flexible. Think about the ability that water has to take on any form in which it is held. Like water, go with the flow of life no matter the situation.
Allow water to hold you.
Allow water to cleanse.
Allow water to heal you.
I am Atlantic Rain.
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Sexual Intimacy & Attachment
What does it mean to be held? I have been speaking about the idea of holding space most recently and what this means.
Just to revisit this, I describe holding space as 'A conscious act of being present, open, allowing, and protective of what another needs in each moment'.
During my discussions with the Beautiful Yoni Steam Queens, something that has been explored recently is the needs and wants of women when it comes to intimacy in the bedroom. One need that stands out to me is the need for their partner to hold space for them. By this they describe that after love making, that it is important for their partner to remain present with them in that moment.
One of the reasons for highlighting this was due to the sense of abandonment felt by some women if a partner leaves them once orgasm has been reached or once intercourse has finished. Now when I say leave, this does not necessary mean physically leaving their home, hotel, car or wherever they decide to get freaky. This could mean being left alone while their partner goes to the bathroom, kitchen or leaves the intimate space to do something.
Many of us have different levels of attachments. Most of our attachments are form during childhood. If as a child you experienced loss, neglect, abandonment, trauma or anything that had an effect on your emotions, this may potentially impact on your attachment to others in adulthood.
If you have experienced any of the above the chances are you may feel anxious at the idea of separation, especially after intimacy.
Intimacy opens us up to so many different energies, emotions and vulnerabilities.
I feel that it is important to share your expectations with your partner especially if it is important that they hold space for you after intimacy.
Regardless of the situation or what we are engaging in, it is important that our needs are met. This rule also applies to our sexual activities.
There is nothing more empowering then transparency and being able to articulate what is important to you.
This I feel is the only way that we are able to live a life filled with amazing sex, love, joy, happiness and abundance.
I am Atlantic Rain.
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Womb Warming and The Menstrual Cycle Challenge
Womb Warming and The Menstrual Cycle Challenge. I am a lover of Eastern Medicine. The idea of using warming herbs and spices have literally saved my womb from the annoying pain and discomfort every month. The Chinese believe that the womb needs to be kept warm to support our reproductive organs in functioning well.
Symptoms of a cold womb include;
A short luteal phase which is the phase in our cycles which is just after ovulation and just before menstruation. The phase generally last for approx 14 days.
Lower back ache, pain during ovulation and during your menstrual cycle.
Delayed ovulation.
Delayed period.
Cold hands and feet.
Ovarian cysts, PCOS, Endometriosis, Fibroids.
Fertility challenges.
How to warm your womb;
Drink warm drinks regular. Ginger tea, Cinnamon, Star Anise are my favourites and good for warming.
Avoid cold drinks and cold foods during your period.
Avoid swimming during your period.
Massage feet with a warming blend of essential oils.
Wear socks often.
Have a Foot Spa.
Wear a Heat pad on your stomach to ease pain.
Warm a Hot water bottle and place on stomach to support with keeping your womb warm to ease discomfort.
Why have I mentioned the feet when discussing the womb and our menstrual cycle?
In the practice of Eastern Medicine it is believed that there is channel that runs from our feet to our womb. The teachings state that it is important for us not to transport the coldness from our feet to our wombs if we want to experience optimal health in our womb space.
During your next menstrual cycle try some of the womb warming ideas to see if it helps.
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Getting Naked & Sacred Sensual Touch
Getting Naked & Sacred Sensual Touch: I have had a few conversations recently around the feelings of being disconnected sexually to partners, especially when life takes over ie, Kids, work, bills the everyday stressors. One of the most simplest things that I have been learning about recently is how PJs, nightdresses and underware can act as a barrier if wanting to form more connectivity and intimacy while sharing a bed with your beloved. The simple act of sleeping naked and being able to physically feel all parts of your partner can work wonders for raising your vibration and sexual desires. It supports in helping you to feel more connected to each other spiritually and consider ways of exploring each other minus penetration.
To me its such a beautiful thing to have two souls connect by something as simple as touch. Lets do more of this, Yaaaaaay!!
I am Atlantic Rain.
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The Oral Sex Taboo
Is oral sex a must for you? Would you be happy to commit to a long term, loving relationship if your partner shared that he or she didn't like/do oral sex? For many male and females oral sex is a massive deal breaker in intimacy. I have shared before in previous posts the ideas of Pussy Worship x Dick Worship and how we can become more attuned to the idea of knowing more about our most intimate parts and the parts of our partners. Oral sex in many cultures is still a taboo subject yet lots of people do it. For many women it is extremely hard for them to experience orgasm through penetration alone which means that they place oral sex high on the priority tick list. I feel that there is lots to explore around this topic, especially as women when it comes to surrendering to our partners during our sexual encounters, as I often feel that as with most things we feel more comfortable with giving more so then receiving.
Just my thoughts...
I am Atlantic Rain.
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The Full Moon and Sacred Sex
The Full Moon & Sacred Sex....Woman, You were born to do great things. What lies in between your thighs has the ability to create life, manifest and alter reality. This is one of your super powers! As we approach the last full moon of 2018, use this full moon energy along side your sexual energy to visualise how you see yourself Growing and Glowing during the next 12 months. Use the full moon energy to get sexually intimate with yourself and others. Play, have fun, experiment. As your sexual energy builds up and rises, use this energy to work through each of your chakras starting at your base chakra which is called the Root Chakra (Red) which is located at the base of your spine. This Chakra focuses on finances, career, home, material objects. Next is your Sacral Chakra (Orange) which is located between your navel and spine. This Chakra focuses on all cravings, sex, food, drink, trills. Next is your Solar Plexus (Yellow) which located behind the navel. This Chakra focuses on power & control. Next is the Heart Chakra (Green) which is located in the chest area. This Chakra focuses on relationships, love, forgiveness and clairesentience. Next is your Throat Chakra (Blue) which is located in the Adams Apple. This Chakra focuses on speaking your truth, communication, asking for your needs to be met. Next is your Ear Chakras (Reddish Violet) which is located in your head above your right & left ears. This Chakra focuses on Divine Communication, clear hearing, clairaudiance. Next is your Third Eye Chakra (Radiating Indigo Blue) which is located inbetween your 2 physical eyes. This Chakra focuses on the future, the past, the spirit world. The last chakra is called the Crown Chakra (purple) which is located at the top of your head. This Chakra focuses on God, religion, spirituality, divine guidance, trust. Practice this technique during the Full and New Moons until you Master what it feels like to experience full orgasmic ecstasy. Using both your Sexual Energy and the Full Moon together can create the most amazing Sex Magick and before you know it you will have all that you have wished for and more. Proceed with caution: Woman, Your body is your Sacred Temple. Only allow those who are Respectful & Worthy enough to enter in.
I am Atlantic Rain.
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Sex with no Outcome. No Ejaculation, No Orgasm!
Sex with no Outcome. No Ejaculation, No Orgasm! Let's explore
Sex for me is always an amazing topic to discuss. Especially Sacred Sex...Why I hear you ask? Because there is nothing more beautiful in the world then two, three or as many as you like, (orgy! No judgement here) like-minded souls to come together to create what has the potential to be something magnificent.
Sex as a topic is still quite taboo, especially if people want to discuss sex openly. Sex is often viewed as something that is intimate, private and personal. All of this I agree with while at the same time I feel called to share how sex can be used for manifestation, spiritual growth, healing and enlightenment. The older I have become the more I have explored the spiritual side to sex and have used sex as a tool to manifest my dreams into reality and to support my spiritual development. This has worked wonders in all areas of my life.
There is an idea that I have heard discussed many times which explores the idea that every time a man ejaculates (comes) he is losing some part of his 'Life Force Energy'. The same idea can also be applied to women when they orgasm. This idea suggests that to preserve a long and healthy life, Ejaculation and Orgasm should not be the end result of every sexual encounter and that both should be controlled.
Sex, love making, fucking all generate an immense amount of Energy and Frequency. The amount of energy that can be created during one intense sexual encounter, I believe has the ability to create electricity. Forget solar panels to light and heat your home. Just have amazing sex . Yes, my belief is that sexual energy with the right partner can be that powerful. During the act of love making and speaking in terms of energy, the woman is often focused on using her energy to pull the seed from her man, working her Magick to make him 'come' (ejaculate). Obviously every women wants her needs fulfilled also and with a fair and equal exchange of energy, the man will also be working his Magick to get his woman to orgasm. Non ejaculation sex or non orgasmic sex looks at the energy that is exchanged between the individuals involved and how the energy works/flows. Now this will mean that during the act of love making the man is not allowed to 'come" and women is not allowed to 'orgasm' and for the focus to be on the ENERGY...Now from experience there is nothing worse, frustrating, testing, arousing, pleasurable yet unfulfilling (mixed emotions) then being on the verge of total orgasmic ecstasy and not being able to release that energy, yes we have all been there. However sex with no outcome looks at this on a deeper level. Sex with no outcome is all about the energy exchange not the outcome!!
Now from a spiritual perspective and to help in your spiritual growth you can use the energy created during sex to envision what you wish to manifest, goals you want to achieve, wishes you desire, wishes you want to fulfil. If doing this with someone that you are in alignment with and connect with, you can create the most amazing outcomes. Now the outcomes that I am referring to here are the outcomes that you are using the energy for. The energy that you are using from the spiritual plane to pull through and manifest on the physical plane. Visualise the energy as a golden glow that is moving around your body. Work on areas in your body that you are experiencing issues with. Focus the golden glow on these areas and imagine them giving out healing energy (sexual healing). Just like most things in life, to be good at anything, you need to practice. So enjoy, explore and have fun with the amazing world of Sacred Sex.
I am Atlantic Rain.
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Moon Magick and Sacred Sex
Its All Spiritual. Full Moon, Blood Moon, Super Moon all happening. Moon Magick and Sacred Sex. Still playing with that sexual energy...During the act of sex, fucking, love making, self pleasure put your hand on your lower stomach (men), womb space (women). Visualise an orange glow shining bright there. Meditate on all that you wish to be birthed from the space. Hopes, Dreams, Desires, Goals, Wishes. Speak them out loud. Affirm it, pray on it, feel it!! Breath into this space. Inhaling and exhaling during penetration. Feel the energy move around your body and when the time feels right, release and let go!!
I am Atlantic Rain
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Yoni Steaming and Hysterectomies
Q - Can I Yoni/Vaginal Steam if I have had a hysterectomy?
A - Absolutely! Big YES!
Physically, after having a hysterectomy some women experience a decrease in their hormones, dryness and discomfort. Yoni Steaming as a treatment can help in all of these areas. The vagina is very porous which means it is fantastic at absorbing mama natures herbs. This means that the herbs when mixed and blended with hot water are able to get to work quite quickly.
Spiritually, although all or part of the uterus has been remove due to hysterectomy, the energy that is housed in your womb space remains the same. Yoni steaming can support in cleansing and clearing this space. Ready to welcome new and positive energy. Yoni steaming after a hysterectomy can support you with reconnecting with your body and divine feminine energy.
Yoni/Vaginal Steaming is an inclusive treatment to support all women, regardless of her womb story.
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What is it like to get a Yoni Steam
What is it like to get a Yoni Steam?
Yoni/ Vaginal Steaming is one if the oldest methods of vagina/vulva/womb space care. It is known and practiced in many cultures worldwide. Yoni/Vaginal Steaming helps with an array of women's health conditions that are centred around the womb. As a practice women steam for different reasons and it is not a one size fits all.
Below is a suggested list of why women steam and what Yoni/Vaginal Steaming can support with.
The Physical reasons include painful periods, fertility support, miscarriage, post pregnancy after care, fibroids, endometriosis, pcos, ph imbalancement, after care after termination/abortion, sexual health, Trush the list is endless.
The Spiritual reasons include releasing soul ties, releasing sexual trauma, emotional issues, dissolving negative energy, breaking hexes, dissolving stagnant energy, blessing your womb space, welcoming new life, welcoming new energy, working on forgiveness, inviting in creative energy, inviting in love, Chakra balancing, again the list is endless.
So back to the question, What does Yoni Steaming feel like? Yoni steaming feels like a facial but for your vagina. Yes I said it!
Yoni Steaming is a selection of herbs that have been given to us by Mama Nature which are then added to hot water which creates the most beautifully fragranced steam. Women are dressed in a full length robe and sit over the steam which then goes to work on our Womb Spaces, Vulva's and Vaginas. It is a very sensual feeling and you can often feel your vagina pulsating as the steam and herbs work on tightening that area. Yes Yoni Steaming is good for tightening your Pussy Cat.
While sitting over the steam, obviously your Yoni gets wet from the steam but it is such a beautifully cleansing experience. You may also feel a lot of sensation in your Clitoris which can feel quite Orgasmic. This is due to the steam increasing the blood flow and circulation in this area. It truly feels divine. The steam also releases any trapped wind that is floating up there in womb spaces. The steam and herbs REALLY get to work. Generally speaking women steam for approx 30-45 minutes.
After steaming you generally feel fresh and cleansed. If steaming to prevent painful periods from experience my period has had a massive improvement in terms of the level of discomfort during my next cycle.
Emotionally you may feel a sense of relief especially if you are working on Resolving and Dissolving past energies that have been left in your womb space.
What I will also say here is that to really do the work on whatever it is that you are working on, you really should steam often. Now I don't mean every other day or every week but I would suggest that you have a set routine of when to steam.
If anyone has any questions or would like to book in a consultation with me for a beautiful Yoni/Vaginal Steam please get in touch. Email: atlanticrainnc@aol.co.uk or text, whatapp, call 07539021471
I would also like to say a MASSIVE thank you to everyone who supports my work and everyone who I have had the pleasure of meeting on this journey. The energy exchange is always amazing. Here's to a beautiful and blessed new week.
I am Atlantic Rain.
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Yoni Steam Queens
Since being with women on their Yoni Steam Queen journeys I have observed some of the most beautiful things. As the herbs that we use to steam are from Mama Nature it is only right that we give these back to nature once finished and show our gratitude. At the end of todays Yoni Steam treatment I asked the Queens how they would like me to dispose of their herbs. To be honest, there are two choices. 1, to throw them down the toilet or 2, to pour them into the court yard garden which is situated just below the Temple and Crown Wellness Suite. Today the Queens chose to give them back to Mama Nature. They each chose a tree and both said their own private prayers before giving the herbs back to Mama Nature. Now what happened next found me speechless! Just as they both started to give their herbs back to nature the most profound thing happened, the heavens opened and the rain just started pouring. All 3 of us were stood there like. Omg!! As well as me screaming and running for shelter. What was beautiful was the Queens remained in the moment stood beside their trees and continued to pray while giving the herbs back as the rain fell. As they stopped giving back to Mama Nature, the rain stopped pouring. Literally like instantly! It was nothing short of AMAZING. Even now I'm smiling at how beautiful it was. For me the rain falling was evidence that whatever they were praying for, whatever they had let go of, whatever wishes they asked to be fulfilled definitely got the Blessing of the Divine. I am in awe of how beautiful that moment was .Thank you Yoni Steam Queens for gracing me with your wonderful energy. Until next time...I am Atlantic Rain.
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Pussy Worship x Dick Worship
Pussy Worship x Dick Worship
As women the idea of Pussy worship, Vagina worship, Womb worship starts with us. We need to learn to love, honour, respect our most intimate body parts. Until we are ready to put in the work to do so, we cannot expect others to do the same. When I say others I mean our intimate partners. Those we exchange sexual energy with.
Our vaginas and womb spaces are super powerful and are full of creative energy. This energy can be used to create pretty much anything. The energy held in this space can be used to 'Create Life' but you can also use this energy to have a 'Creative Life'.
Men!! Penis worship, Dick worship, Cock worship, Willy worship, starts with you! If you do not love, honour, respect your most intimate body part, how can you expect others to love, respect and honour you.
What does Pussy Worship x Dick Worship look like?
Pussy worship and Dick worship can be done in many ways. Below are a few suggested ideas.
So here goes;
Pussy Worship can look like your partner really putting in the work to understand what turns you on. It can also look like your partner looking at your Pussy, knowing what is where in that space and really deeping how the pussy functions. I say this because, believe it or not there are many people out there that think that they no about Female Anatomy but really do not. Pussy worship can mean becoming aware of the smell and taste. Yes, it's that deep! Pussy worship can be knowing how your partner responds to touch and what brings pleasure.
Dick Worship similar to Pussy Worship can look like knowing what your partners dick looks like, what does it tastes like, what does it smell like, what parts are most sensitive. Being conscious of what you are doing when your partner responds well to pleasure. Understanding its functions and how it works.
Our lower chakras which are at the base of our bodies (these include the vagina and penis) are all about creativity and life.
During intimacy whether this is self pleasure or with a partner, use this time to really feel into the energy that is held in this space. How does this feel? Visualise areas of your life that you want to work on and really focus the energy on this area. Use colours to help if you struggle. Orange is my favourite colour to visualise when working on my womb area, creative energies and success.
So there you go!
What I will say is that although this post sounds a lil raw and to the point, it's also about truth. It's about connectedness. It's about bringing energy, consciousness and pleasure back into the bedroom, living room, field, car, where ever you decide to get your groove on. Lol!
It is also about breaking the Taboo and for both Men and Women to feel Sexually Empowered without shame.
Our Pussys are our temples as is a mans Dick. Be kind to these spaces.
I am Atlantic Rain.
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Why it is important to service your vagina
Why it's important for us to service our Yoni/Vagina?
When I say service I mean, take care of. I would say that our vagina and wombs are probably one of the least taken care of areas of our bodies, yet so much happens in this space.
I am 40 years old and fabulous. I have had my fair share of intimate partners. At no point did I REALLY consider the impact that intimacy had on my vagina and womb space. Mostly because I saw things from a physical perspective. Whether that was appearance, status, sex with no real feeling. It was all about the physical not the spiritual. I never looked at the wider picture of how, even my past lovers and 'their' past relationships impacted on me on an energetic level.
I never considered how 'their' life traumas would impact on me energetically. It just didn't enter my mind. I was aware that I connected with some more so than others but never really deeped the feelings from an energetic perspective before, during and after intimacy.
There will be some of us women who have experienced that feeling after intimacy of feeling heavy, low in mood, low in vibration only to find out after that the person we were intimate with has something going on with them emotionally. They were vibrating at a low level.
We must remember that some people are drawn to us due to our healing qualities. Yes we are all healers! But we must be mindful of what their intentions are and what they plan on leaving behind as we are often left with the residue. I suppose it's about being mindful during intimacy. Bringing mindfulness into the bedroom. We are learning mindfulness of everything else so why not the bedroom, living room, field, car or where ever we decide to get our groove on.
Again it's about self love and self care.
For the purpose of being open to beautiful and loving intimate relationships we must build into our selfcare rituals the idea of servicing our vagina's & wombs, and taking care of them as we do everything else.
Next Months Yoni Steam Queen Promotion is titled 'The Pampered Pussy' look out for it as March Booking dates will be shared soon.
I am Atlantic Rain.
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Cosmic Energy and Self Pleasure
Many people think Heaven is a place, I think Heaven is an Experience as is Hell. The Magick that lies inbetween your thighs (women) is Cosmic Energy. It can alter worlds, ideas, perceptions, manifest, conjour, heal, create life. It is God in manifestion.
Our Womb Space can do much...As Women and men in modern day society we have this disconnectedness to our bodies, our thoughts and our ideas and do not see how one is connected to the other. Many health conditions are linked to trapped, unexpressed energy and unexpressed emotions. Trauma that has not been healed and remains trapped in the body. There have been many discussions on self pleasure recently. I'm talking about self sexual pleasure (masturbation) as a means to release, let go and heal. I am not here to judge. My mind, heart and eyes are fully open. And I say do whatever rocks your boat, like literally. Most women do not no there bodies as intimate as men as for a woman to know her body would mean to go inward. And for some...the thought of going inwards, using sex toys as instruments to bring pleasure is a no no and a no go! However, again, going back to energy release and pleasure, is the idea of using tools to arouse such a bad thing? Feel free to discuss below...Be brave!
I am Atlantic Rain.
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Boundaries and Consent
I think it is important that even as adults we explore and revisit safety in intimacy. Sex education, relationship work, self care, self esteem generally starts in childhood. It starts with what we are taught and observe both at home and at school. It then extends to how we see ourselves as well as peer influences.
No matter what age, there is always room for learning and growth.
Boundaries and Consent: I love exploring this topic especially as an adult. When I look back and consider some of the situations I got myself into prior to being in a stable relationship with my now husband, I got myself into some pretty sticky situations when it came to boundaries and consent. Thankfully all situations that I got myself into were manageable. However sadly this is not always the case for others.
When we enter into new relationships we can often feel the need to please. Even if this is at the expense of not pleasing ourselves.
Boundaries and consent is something that most individuals struggle with daily.
How many times have we all agreed to do something that we really didn't want to do due to us not wanting to offend?
How many times have we consented to take part in something due to us not wanting to appear rude?
Now when I say this, I'm just talking about during our day to day interactions whether at work, school, home ect. Setting boundaries and consent can be challenging.
This is something that I personally have and still find challenging.
I will say though that with age and more confidence I am getting better at saying no.
Believe it or not there are many people who struggle to say no, especially when another person's feeling are involved. We worry about hurting them.
Intimacy, sex, fucking, love making should not always be about penetration. Especially if you don't want it to be.
Whether your relationship is old or new it is never to late to set boundaries for what you want to take place. Whether this is one partner or multiple, work on opening your throat chakra so that you have the confidence to vocalise what you want AND what you do not want!
Sex and Intimacy should always be a equal exchange where both parties agree and feel comfortable with what is about to take place.
At any point during intimacy that you decide to change your mind, we must remember that it is okay to say NO! Remembering that NO is a complete sentence!
To set boundaries is to set safety around yourself and your partner.
Communicate with your partner/s about what it is that you want, what it is that you need and what is off limits. This could be in relation to where you want to be touched and where is a no go.
Is using condoms a must for you or do you not mind? Is being kissed on your lips a big no or is this something that is really important to you? Is foreplay a priority or are you happy to jump straight into having sex?
Is oral sex your thing or is it something that makes you feel uncomfortable?
I can imagine that there is an endless amount of do's and donts that we all have when it comes to intimacy.
It is hoped that we are drawn to people who are on the same wave length as us but this is not always the case which again is why it's important for us to share what we feel from the start.
Now, as much as I have focused on what to say no to, it is also important to practice your YES. Just to add a little balance. If your partner is doing, saying, expressing something that you like, give them a big YESSSSS! Let them no that you are giving your full consent to whatever it is you feel pleasured by.
Intimacy, sex, fucking, love making can bring up so many raw emotions. Some good, some not so good. Setting good boundaries and being clear on what we are happy to give consent to I feel is an important discussion to have from the start. I also think it's a conversation to be had between both male and females of ALL ages. Those are just my thoughts.
I am Atlantic Rain.